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Keys to a Long and Satisfying Marriage

My husband and I celebrated our 41st wedding anniversary in October 2013. It seems as though the years have flown by and each year has added a deeper dimension to our relationship. So I thought I would share some of the keys (best practices and principles) for a successful marriage. These keys work for any relationship and I plan to expand on some of them in future posts. I don’t claim that this is an exhaustive list by any means, but there are principles and ideas that will provide you with wisdom in any relationship. More wisdom keys can be found in the Bible. Anyone who studies it diligently will find much more than I can possibly share here.

And it’s important to say that even though we know these keys and principles, we don’t necessarily always follow them. We’re still a work in progress just like everyone else. I hope that encourages you as you read through these.

So here is our list:

30 Keys to a Long and Satisfying Marriage
  1. Put God first – worship Him together
  2. Take time every day for the 6 minute prayer*
  3. Be quick to ask forgiveness
  4. Be quick to forgive (seventy times seven)
  5. Put the other’s interests above your own
  6. Be a servant spouse
  7. Be available
  8. Do not use sex as a weapon against your partner
  9. Spend time together – enjoying shared interests
  10. Have fun together!
  11. Desire the best for your partner even at your own expense
  12. Cultivate gratefulness toward your spouse (not taking them for granted)
  13. Let your spouse have the last word (let him/her think he/she’s right even when he/she isn’t)
  14. Don’t embarrass him/her in public or in front of your children
  15. Laugh with him/her, not at him/her
  16. Thank God for how He has used your spouse in your life
  17. Avoid the words, “always” and “never”
  18. Keep each others secrets
  19. Don’t keep secrets from each other
  20. Understand the difference between relational and topical communication*
  21. Do unto your spouse as you would have them do unto you (even if they don’t do the same)
  22. Make him/her feel important
  23. Be a good listener
  24. Swallow your pride and be the first one to say you’re sorry
  25. Edify him/her in front of everyone
  26. Make him/her believe they can do anything
  27. Trust God to change both you and your spouse because you can’t
  28. Be your spouse’s best cheerleader and supporter
  29. Take your marriage vows seriously – a covenant is serious
  30. Make sure that divorce is not part of your thinking or your vocabulary

In this day and age when anything goes and most people go by what “feels good” to them, it’s more important than ever to base our actions and decisions on solid principles that have stood the test of time. It’s my hope that as you read through these, you will realize that without the help of a personal God and Savior to help you, you will fail. But He is alive and well and able to meet you wherever you are and to help you no matter what your current circumstances may be.

My prayer is that you will experience a lifetime of loving that is more satisfying than you could ever imagine.
Don’t forget to add your comments. I welcome any suggestions, comments or questions.
Sharon Reece
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*I’ll explain the 6 minute prayer and the difference between topical and relational communication in future posts.
Re-edited from my blog on Good Solutions for Health, Wealth and Wisdom, by Sharon Reece

How We Wrote (and Published) Aloha is Forever

From the time we left Hawaii after our month long search for our son John, we knew we had to write a book to tell the story. The grace, comfort, provision and all the amazing things we experienced during our search just had to be shared. We knew that many people had lost children, some through miscarriage, some through tragic accidents or illnesses and some through horrific circumstances. Perhaps our story would help or encourage some of those parents who had experienced something similar and who could identify with what we went through.

But writing wasn’t easy.

In fact, it took a long time for us to finally get everything down in print and make the decision to publish. I imagine anyone who has launched a creative work feels the same way. Will it be well received? Will it be criticized? Could we have phrased something better? Will it help anyone? Will there be errors on every other page? The doubts and fears were like tangled weeds grabbing our legs and keeping us from moving forward. Then while at a conference put on by the ministry we partner with, Family Foundations International, in the fall of 2010, we saw many books on the resource table that had been written by our colleagues. We turned to each other and said, “Hmm! Our book is supposed to be here, but isn’t.” That gave us the impetus we needed and by the end of that year, it was in print!

You might imagine that we had a hard time co-authoring the book, but that was not the case. With 38 years of marriage under our belts, we had learned a thing or two about working together. What Rick wrote, I would go over and edit. What I wrote, he would do the same. Although my gifts in editing are stronger than his, he is a better storyteller. So our gifts balanced each other and with much prayer, the book came together into a cohesive whole. Many places it is difficult to tell whether the author was Rick or Sharon. In reality, we were both the authors and the story was ours to tell together.

Rick also has gifts in layout and design. So he did all of the work on making the book look attractive and easy to read. I had no input in that arena but I think he did a fantastic job.

The goal was to bring glory to God and to Jesus Christ our Savior and to give honor to the Holy Spirit who guided our steps through the whole process. Our hope as you read it is that you will feel the presence and comfort of the Lord Jesus Christ through His Holy Spirit and that He will bless and comfort you through the experiences we share.

Forgive us for the places we share our theological perspective on suffering. Perhaps someone needs to hear what we have to say. We honor your right to a different opinion, but we felt compelled to share ours.

Thank you for letting us share our story with you!